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dating troubles

Ok. I've decided dating guys a few years older than me (like 4) hasn't been flying (they're single and 26 for a reason) and went on a date with a 21 year old last night (I'm 22).

And I feel like I'm 30 and he's 14. In attitude that is.

I have to be home before midnight TO GO TO BED so I can wake up early. He typically does not, unless his schedule (he works in the CVS pharmacy) deems so. He's still in college, I'm on salary.

those are the details, here's my problem.

we went on a date last night and I definitely felt like I was on a 15 year old's date. My typical date to this point ended either in us not liking eachother and not speaking, or him trying to undress me on my couch. Neither of these things happened. He didn't even kiss me, but he's taking me out thursday. He said its 'better to take these things slow.' What things? Did I miss a lesson in the 'ten week program of dating?' I never really dated, my prior almost 3 year relationship was a friendship turned to relationship overnight and my recent ex is the one that tried to undress me date 1. I kinda have no idea what to do or how to handle myself at this point. This is junior high style dating. One hug. He pays. He calls, he asks out, blah blah blah. I'm into the 'he does everything' but wtf do I do? Just kinda go with it? Am I supposed to make moves?

Or is it a bad thing I assume I'm just going to have to fend off his advances...

So I ask you guys, there's some of you that have done this sort of dating, the innocent boy likes girl kinda thing. I havent. Give me some tips. I'm too old for this

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having to be home for midnight isnt great for the dating scene.

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I've done this and it sucks. Being 19 (soon to be 20) is a major hinderance on my mature views. I feel like I'm old fashioned and sometimes too old. I like to do older things than movies, dinner. Been done before. A walk after dinner would be something nice or maybe just relaxing at the house with a TV dinner and a glass of wine.

But was for what YOU are supposed to do...nothing. At this point, since it's still early, you just go along with it. I'm not a female so I can't even begin to tell you when to make a move or anything. You'll know but...yeah

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I don't think that he sounds immature.

He's just being chivalrous, no kissing on the first date!

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Oh, yes, this is going to be wild.

I personally think people(both parties) expect too much out of a relationship. Nobody is perfect, but it's good practice to date to find the one eventually you enjoy being with the most.

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Too bad you limited this to guys only.

If that was your opinion on the first date why bother with a second?

Too old at 22? shesh then youre over the hill and ready for the grave by 25..hahaha.

Okay, so every girl I've been with we've fucked on the first date. It totally doesn't work out in the long run. So, with the g/f I have now I wanted to take things a bit slower. The weird thing is, is that I really fell for this girl and I became really shy with her. We would go on dates and I would take care of everything and we would "bump" and flirt and stuff but it took me like four dates to seal the kiss.

I don't know what this is thinking. Maybe he REALLY likes you? Or maybe he doesn't have much experience?

Honestly, being almost 24 with the maturity of a middle 20's guy, when I was dating I wouldn't even mess with kids. A kid to me is 21 and under. They can't drink with you and they're not grown up at all. They're still usually pretty immature. Guys are 10x worse than the girls at that age.

I would go out on a couple more dates with this guy and see what he does. Obviously you're looking for some sex with your casual dating. Your best bet overall is to probably date guys 21 to 25.

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the smaller signs say he does really like me. calls, texts, that sort of thing. i'll definitely go out with him again, I'm just still not sure what he's trying to accomplish with this slowness. Every other first date I've been on he's tried to undress me.

:: shrug ::

you guys (by guys i mean girls too) put it in some perspective... I'm just not familiar with the 'proper' dating scene. I mean, he keeps asking me what I want to do next time 'we hang out.'

how the **** do i know? I don't even know whats going on

(oh, he's 21 btw, he's only a few months younger than me)

and yes, i'm looking for sex, i have all the companionship i need in my bestfriend and a ton of other friends. but i need to get laid, in a nonpromiscuous, safe manner, with a nonsketchy, nice guy i really enjoy.

that doesnt live like, hundreds of miles away atleast.

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Originally posted by nykoelle:

and yes, i'm looking for sex, i have all the companionship i need in my bestfriend and a ton of other friends. but i need to get laid, in a nonpromiscuous, safe manner, with a nonsketchy, nice guy i really enjoy.

that doesnt live like, hundreds of miles away atleast.

He sounds like a good guy going about it the normal way. If he askes you what you want to do, tell him something. Throw the dude some bones.

If you really want sex then make the first move. Just hold his hand randomly or something. Its not that big of a deal. He might be getting mixed vibes from you.

And if you're open with him and he REALLY likes you then DON'T sex him. You need to find someone else who will be more casual then this guy.

As for the "every other guy has tried to un dress me" I don't know if that is something to look for in a guy or not...

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Originally posted by nykoelle:

but i need to get laid, in a nonpromiscuous, safe manner, with a nonsketchy, nice guy i really enjoy.

LMFAO. I feel ya...I feel ya...

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