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Dominance ? Society, Sex, or Personal?

Are you or do you prefer to be dominant in your relationships? Or are you submissive? Are you submissive in your relationship but dominant at work? Are you being dominated by your spouse/significant other and can't stand it, i.e., want to be top dog? Are you dominating your sweetie pie and aching to be in submission? Are you one of those "Equal" in the relationship people, 50/50, you get what I get, and we discuss everything people?

Do you believe dominance is something society has the most influence over? Or do you think the male sex is the dominant sex? Or do you think as I do that dominance is a personal thing that isn't based on the sex or society, it's a choice or personality type?

Women on the top in relationships is prevalent in America, and I am together with a Taiwanese guy- so, I am opting to be submissive... Is it different than what I am used to? You bet. Do I like it? I've discovered, after a previous relationship with a puppy that I prefer it. This is why I bring the subject up for discussion. Let the harassment begin.

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It's clearly just a personality type, as women and men alike are dominant in various ways. I personally tend to be dominant in most relationships (i.e. in work, relationships with the opposite sex, and with family and friends, though less so).

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Err, I would rather that my girlfriend and I have equal say... As we pretty much do. Sometimes I leave things completely up to her 'cause I'm in a lazy mood and vice versa. But I would never want to be dominant over her, or submissive for that matter.

[Edit] Wait, "on the top"? Are we talking about sex positions?

Last edited by bleedwithme, June 7th, 2006 10:48 AM (Edited 1 times)

I'm dominant in most things, though I put myself very submissive towards friends and relations. Most girls go "I didn't know you were so sweet" when they get to know me better...

Oh yeah, I'm dominant in sex btw, if anyone cares

Last edited by Gil, June 8th, 2006 10:10 PM (Edited 1 times)

Its depends. there are situations when your partner is knowledgeable on the matter. His/her expertise cannot be overlooked. that is the time when the other party should subordinate. however, there are times, when you have what it takes to exceptionally solve a dilemma that's the time when you have to dominate.

for every relationship to be successful both must meet halfway. however, there are times when you have to give the paddle to your partner to sail the right way. in this case, compassion and understanding are necessary. to yield the best in each of you 50/50 rule is essential.

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50/50 makes a relation dull. Every decision should come from one of the two partners, the other should follow. Just make sure to switch who's leading from time to time. That way you're both learning something from each other...

I'm too tired to clean up my grammar and make sense, apologies...

I done abit of reading on this subject, and it all suggests that we are always in constant battle with each other for power. For example, you a "choosing" to let your boy friend be the dominant side, really, this is just a way of manuiplating him. On a puerly subconsious basis, dear. I have been a relationship for about 7 years, and one of the things I like about my partner is that she will stand her ground, on a matter. I repect her for this, much more than if she was at my every whim.

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Originally posted by tRaVelOcItY:

Its depends. there are situations when your partner is knowledgeable on the matter. His/her expertise cannot be overlooked. that is the time when the other party should subordinate. however, there are times, when you have what it takes to exceptionally solve a dilemma that's the time when you have to dominate.

for every relationship to be successful both must meet halfway. however, there are times when you have to give the paddle to your partner to sail the right way. in this case, compassion and understanding are necessary. to yield the best in each of you 50/50 rule is essential.

Nicely said!
Compromise is also a basic need of any relationship.

Just a little editted note: Has anyone read the book titled ' The Celestine Prophecy' by James Redfield?
This book discusses the powers we use against each other to drain each other of energy (getting you made, making you react negatively, etc.) It's a good read for this topic.

Last edited by Lexykon, August 5th, 2006 04:49 AM (Edited 1 times)