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damn ashly you keep saying i need help or need to see a doctor lol... I have pretty good self control, I've quit smoking, built self confidence, lost 40 pounds and controlled myself in other aspects of my life. the fact that i get angry when I lose has been since i was 4-5 years old even when I played sonic. either it's heriditary or i picked it up from my uncles who used to gamble a lot and get mad when they lost.

I wont lie though I think you might be right about the anger but not this. every couple of weeks I don't feel the need to buy anything and then for like a week or two straight i have like 1,000 things that I want. I just need to learn self-discipline(since no one ever taught me any) and patience.

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I don't recommend conseling, or therepy, or anything like that, because I understand it.

If you're trying to find comfort in things, learn not to keep buying, but rather build. The sense of satisfaction you'll gain from improving your craft and taking pride in what you've done is worth so much more.

Trust me, I know what it's like to constantly shop and want and need more. I used to (used to?) be the kid who bought all the latest and greatest computer stuff or whatever, didn't like cars or woodworking, just always having something better. I still do spend ridiculous amounts of money, but it's not as important to me as it used to be.

Anyway...I still buy things, but a few things really got to me.

First...I was only content with what I had for a short while, then it was on to needing something else to make me happy. This caused me to pause and reflect, trying to figure out why I couldn't be content. For everyone it's different, but just try to figure out why, and you'll be on to the next step.

For me, I needed to create, not just have. I spent a little bit more, got some power tools, and started building things. First it was a shelf or box, and yeah, it sucked. But I kept going, now I've built some pretty awesome stuff and I'm not slowing down. Next project on the list is a nice rack for my new servers, after that is a huge habitat for my asian water monitors....

And in the meantime I will do things here and there for other people, sell what I don't need (which is hard because I'm a packrat).

There's nothing wrong with wanting things. I think if we didn't want this or that sometimes we'd miss out on the high we get from the drive to work toward those goals.

That doesn't mean the goal in and of itself has to be your ultimate driving force. I'd venture a guess that you don't really know why you're here on earth. It's time to find or make a purpose for yourself, accept it for what it is, and learn to be content.

Then you'll realize that the things that you thought would make you happy are only things that eventually get thrown away.

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Last edited by actionPlant, February 17th, 2006 11:51 PM (Edited 1 times)

Well, I'm no doctor, but it sounds like you feel you deserve some praise because you've helped your own life by quitting smoking, which is very hard btw, and losing 40 bls!! thats crazy. good job.

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I think everyone has these feelings, just that a lot of people know how to CONTROL them. I get these feelings all the time, but I don't go waste my money on things I am not going to use. I research every product that I buy a lot before I buy it. Find cheaper alternatives and such.

If you quit smoking you should be able to stop this. Depending on how long you smoked for and how many packs/day.

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Jason

kiss a boy

that'll make you feel better.

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"Not everyone has a sob story, and even if they do, it's no excuse."
i don't even own a tv.

Originally posted by genesis_within:

kiss a boy

that'll make you feel better.

*giggles*

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lol...gay, nah thanks a lot action plant you helped me a lot.

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