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Yea, i've dated girls of all ages, including older ones. I think it all really depends on the person. I've been with way too many immature ones, that were my age. I've met girls who were 3+ years older than me that were a hell of a lot more mature than some of the ones that were my age.

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Originally posted by KubeDawg:

it doesnt matter what age. i fell in love @ 16 with a 13yr old girl. i had pressure on me because people kept telling me oh no thats statuatory rape and all this other bs...

so i ended up not going out with her.

time has gone by and i realize how much bullshit goes on in this world. i dont know whats wrong with a relationship no matter what the age difference, because a relationship does not have to include sex, at least until both are consenting age(different in diff states)

i could be 40 and a woman could be 20, and i would be with her if we loved each otehr.

love knows no age.

love is forever.

people i knew were against my relationship decisions, because when i turn 18, she would have still been 15, and they said that's statuatory rape.

statutory rape is when 2 consentual people have sex, but one is under a consenting age, and therefore may not know the difference between right/wrong or yes/no.

well put.

people mature differently, yet the US seems to draw a line at 18 and says that everyone under that age is at the same level of maturity: Immature.

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Originally posted by mcdude:

Originally posted by Dennis:

I think it really depends on the age of the people. I mean 40 and 35 is a lot better than 18 and 13 but the age difference is the same. :P

Good point, I have thought about this many times before. Like I said above, it is how we accept it.

What about this though if the couple were 16 and 21? Again the same age difference but one of them is 16, does this make a difference?

Yeah but people don't usually look at the age difference of a couple by the number of years between their births as they do the ratio of their current ages. Kinda like the examples earlier of (age + 7) / 1.5 and (age / 2) + 7.

So according to the ratios a 40 year old with a 35 year old is much more acceptable than an 18 year old and 13 year old.

Also the lines of maturity and aging blur a lot as people get older. So a larger age difference between two older adults doesn't seem to matter as much as long as the couple physically appears to be close in age and maturity levels. With teenagers growing up so rapidly age and maturity levels can often change a lot from year to year, so a 5 year difference in age can seem huge.

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My mom met my dad when she was 37 and my dad was 27 and got married a few months before I was born. They tell me my dad's parents didn't agree with it at first because they were so far apart, but they eventually came to accept it.

Over 18, I don't really see a problem with big differences.

i'm eighteen and recently hooked up with a girl who said she was seventeen and later found out she was 16. not only do I feel wrong about it but I will never talk to that girl again. it's not a big deal but the childishness of it is sickening. oddly enough this is the only girl younger than me that I've ever been involved with in anyway. the last could of girls I've been with were at least 2-4 years older than me. it's weird how I always end up with older girls...it's not even a prefrence thing...it just always seems to happen to me

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there's probably some exponential formula or something that could answer this, as the acceptable difference seems to increases more as the ages do.

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Its all personal to me.

I am in a committed relationship with the man of my dreams. I am 22 and he is 21. My birthday is Jan 1984 and his is June 1984. So he is a couple months younger than I am. BUT we click like I never thought I would click with another human being. Our goals, our plans, our lives, our personalities; they're on the same level. We can argue like its the end of the world and discuss things for hours and then cuddle up and life is just absolutely perfect.

Before now I was in a few relationships with guys of all ages. When I was 13 I was with an 17 year old - we were together for 4 years. When I was 16 I was with a 22 year old - we were together for 2 years. When I was 20 I was with a 29 year old and we were together for a year.

I don't get along with a lot of guys my age because I don't drink or do drugs or party or care of bar/club scenes and I'm ready to settle down and have a family. MOST of the guys I know that are my age are still at the point where they are sweet talkers to the girls to get what they wanna get and then wanna get together with their buddies and oogle those 13-17 yr old girls who have jus discovered they can use their boobs to get wot they want.

Saying that though, guys older than me... seem to be at a place where they aren't sure if they want to have a family at all and would rather just let things happen as they happen if they happen and would rather set goals to get that new stereo or car than save to support a family. And guys much older than me... either already have the family thing or know they don't want it.

My sister is currently 15, will be 16 in July and she is dating a 20 year old. I don't agree with it for a few reasons. 1) he's a pig. 2) she's naive. 3) he's a pig. As much as I want to support my sister, he is one of those guys I mentioned before; a sweet talker who jus wants to have his fun with his buddies and oogle the young girls. I also know my sister very well and know she deserves better than him and his piggish attitude. I know he's going to hurt her; and I know Im gonna be there to comfort her when he does.

I think its inappropriate for young men to just look at younger girls. Younger girls are naive and they are insecure and they don't know themselves as well as they like to believe they do. Unless the guy KNOWS the girl and really has feelings for her I think its sneaky and wrong of young men to look at younger girls. Some girls act more mature and look more mature than they really are and if older guys (18+) are always setting their sights on those younger girls; I think those insecurities grow and can consume a girl.

But, its a personal matter. If you're gonna put your heart into a girl or a boy; you should make sure you know what you're getting yourself into. If you're a 20 year old boy and you wanna be with a 15 year old girl; ya just gotta accept that she's 15 and not 20. When she shows signs that she's 15, and not as mature as she may seem at times - you stepped into that and you can't blame her for being like that.

My sister and her boyfriend have been together for 2 years. He's 23 and she's 19.
My brother and his girlfriend have been together for 9 years. He's 24 and she's 22.
My dad and mom have been together for 30 years. He's 56 and she's 48.
My grandpa and grandpa have been together for 50 years. He's 72 and she's 64.
And they are all just as much in love as they were when they first got together.

Love happens at all ages and to anyone. Letting love happen is the hard part.
Age and maturity and love don't ALWAYS work together.
Everyone at every age experiences and shows signs of immaturity.
Everyone at every age can feel different types of feelings.
I don't think an age means a deeper level of relationship can be achieved.
I do think a deeper level of relationship means maturity can be achieved.

Its all personal to me

PS:
Sorry for the novel

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Originally posted by XxHoNeYxX:

My sister is currently 15, will be 16 in July and she is dating a 20 year old.

Now thats just wrong.

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with 10 years difference between them do you find it creepy?

There's a difference of 18 years between my parents and I don't find it creepy at all. There's more to a relationship than just age, in fact, age doesn't play a very big role at all.

Oroph; I agree. It is wrong. I think he's a slimeball. A manipulative jerk who is only with her for one reason. Not taking away from the person my sister is; she's a beautiful girl and has a wonderful personality - but that personality is the personality of a 15 year old girl.

I've told her what I think of him and he knows what I think of him and there is no way in hell I will let them be alone for even 2 minutes cuz I know the second they are alone that worm is gonna try and touch her.

If he's smart he wont - unless he wants his penis forcibly removed

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